Given that, I'm assuming you're using the old patcher.
I'm going to repeat gm9's question since it will tell us whether or not the game is using the EQ2MAP folder (and thus the modified map window) or not.
Does your map window have SubmitPOI and ReportPOI buttons in the upper right corner? Check your EverQuest II]\ folder for a file called eq2.ini. In it should be the following:
cl_ui_subdir UI/
cl_ui_skinname EQ2MAP
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